It surprises me when I hear people speak of happiness as an unachievable, ephemeral dream, when we can live it every day. Most people seem to be too blinded to notice, blinded by the goal of finding happiness, as if it was an object you could grasp with your hands.
People spend their lives reaching for this idealistic happiness they’ve heard of: trying to build the perfect life. The thing is, nothing’s perfect, but we can find small moments of perfection if we look for them: moments of joy, of beauty, of simplicity. These moments are the true fibres of happiness. I think happiness is all about recognising and appreciating those moments, those little details that can make huge differences, rather than looking for a whole picture of happiness, like a big house or an expensive car.
So, what are those beautiful moments? There are so many and we can find them in every aspect of our lives, if we pay attention, that is. This is what happiness means to me:
- taking that first bite of a home cooked meal
- talking to a friend I haven’t seen in a long time
- finding money in my pocket
- a cold beer on a hot day
- a deep conversation with a good friend: knowing someone out there gets me
- feeling the waves crashing against my skin
- enjoying and finding pride in my work
- a shared look with a stranger
- a new addition to the family
- a new relationship
- a new beginning
- knowing an old friendship is still going strong
- realising I know someone else better than I know myself
- a cheap ice cream cone
- someone noticing I’ve changed my hair or glasses
- seeing a loved one who was away for too long
Happiness is many things, not just an abstract illusion (or delusion for some). Find your happiness in your every day, you’ll see you’ve stopped searching on the outside for something you had to power to create all along.
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